My Birth Experience

I want to thank God for the birth of my son through so many struggles. I didn’t deliver on or before my EDD (Expected day of delivery) and I was worried not knowing the reason why. I was scheduled to be induced on Wednesday, 27^th of October 2010 but with prayers I fell into labour on Tuesday, Oct 26^th  after which I hurriedly went to the hospital. My labour pains became strenuous and constant by 5pm on Tuesday and by 2am on Wednesday, I still haven’t delivered even though the pain was constant and rigorous.

My husband, the doctor, and I agreed together in prayers and by 3am on Wednesday, I delivered virginally a bouncing, big and handsome baby boy. His weight was 4.5kg (10 lbs). It was a miracle. God answered my prayers.

Lesson I Learnt From The Experience;

My Austin (2)

I am sure you have all been looking forward to the concluding part of the story. As I said he still had the effrontery to come to my office on Tuesday. I was at a loss or what to do. I left him in the lobby for about an hour. Dayo, who was a coworker, offered to help me handle him after I told her the story. I said Okay. She went for a while and after talking to him came back to call me ( she literarily dragged me). As i looked at him. A very hateful and vengeful feeling rose up in me ( In fact, If  I  had a gun I would have shot him, but thank God I didnt). He looked at me with a piteous eye and proceeded to tell me he was sorry. Sorry, my foot, my  head screamed.

"How could you do that to a woman who has two children for you,No wonder you insisted on a quiet Registry wedding. You are a crazy fool. " I screamed

My Austin

I always loved to rejoice with those that rejoice and that was my motive as i joined the whole church in celebration of the arrival of a new baby. As we got to the front, the Pastor-in-charge prayed for the baby and stretched the microphone to the father of the baby for his testimony

"Praise the Lord," he boomed.

I jerked at the voice. The voice was so familiar as i stretched my neck to look at the father, I opened my mouth wide enough to allow a ball  of eba. Its not true, i kept repeating. This was the same guy who had dropped a Card and a bottle of wine for me at my office the previous week. He couldn't be married, I reasoned. This is Austin, my Austin.

Then................

Wait to get dressed

My son, Inioluwa, (He is 1 yr and seven months) has a habit of running around butt naked after his bath. I always have to chase him before I can get him dressed up. This morning it was quite chilly, so as soon as I bath him I hurriedly pulled him to the room so as to dress him up.

He screamed and struggled so much so that I found it difficult to wear his trousers. I had no choice but to throw him on the bed face down and put my leg on him (to hold him down).

My Love Story (Pt 2)

Yes…. Did I say I called it quits totally. Yes I did with the help of God, and you can trust the devil he continually whispered words of doubt telling me not to loose the guy that seems to love me so much, and to make matters worse, he was still hanging around, but I remained resolute and stood my ground.

At that time I had plans to travel to America for further studies but I felt in my spirit that that was not the step for me to take. God showed himself strong and I got a good job with one of the best banks in Nigeria (though I’ve left the bank now. They are still on top of their game).

My getting the job truncated all my plans for going for my masters and positioned me to meet him. Yes back to our gist.

My Love story (Part 1)

“Aderonke, how are you,” My one and only elder sister said to me on phone

“I’m fine”

“What is this am hearing about you being in a relationship with someone who is not born again,” She accused

“No, I am not in a relationship with him. Its just that I am in love with him.” I Stammered

“You know he is not even someone ready to become a Christian. His denomination does not even believe in the Holy Ghost and so many other things. That love is not love; you better cancel it from your heart. There is more to marriage than feelings” She said matter of factly as she said her goobyes and dropped.

Everyone doesn’t seem to understand me, I moped. Have they ever been in love.

Don’t be the best, Be the only one

I just finished praying that day and I was convinced in my spirit to call it quits with Mr fine guy. I and Mr Fine guy have been in a relationship for a while, though I knew within me it was not heading anywhere. He almost always made me do something I didn’t want and I knew it was not Gods will for me. I knew I deserved more, but my biological belief clock (though a graduate, but still young in age) was ticking. People don’t want to know if you are just 22 but as soon as you leave the university, the next question is when will we come and eat rice oh. So I rose up from my prayer tower (a.k.a my bed) and with a strong resolve, got dressed to go and call it quits for the umpteenth and I hope the last time.

The process

My Son started sucking his right thumb (the original sucking finger) at three months and we tried to stop him but he refused. It got worse as soon as I resumed office from my Maternity leave. His nanny felt it was not a bad thing so she didn’t try to stop him. When it got to a stage I gave up and just let him suck. If you know me, it was not an easy decision for me because I hated it when I see babies suck. In fact as a young girl I believed the mother of any baby who sucked was not diligent enough and I would look at her with disdain as her baby sucks. Now it happened to me and in my heart I started apologizing to every woman I had given the bad eye.